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Your reaction when your Spouse gets hit on?

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  1. 97guns

    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    I've been in Vegas for the past 3 days and have seen my SO get hit on 2 times, #1 was Someone telling her she is beautiful and #2 was a worker selling tours outside Excalibur, he grabs her hand and hangs on, tells her how beautiful she is and that he wants to take her to dinner that evening. in the short 2 minute conversation he finds out her nationality, where she lives and probably tried for her #. Him being an employee of the property really passed me off and I've sent several emails to the establishment letting them know.

    She gets looks and compliments so often, every day, but I don't really get pissed off, I am secure with our relationship and never worry about her but I'm feeling that one day I'm gonna have to put some dudes head into pavement, might even be today!
     
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    Have you shared that with her?
     
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    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    Shared what? That I see her getting looks and compliments? Not too much to do about that, but when someone touches her that is a line crossed, I told her yesterday that one day there will be fisticuffs
     
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    Yeah I meant the fisticuffs part. You are on vacation it should be fun not upsetting.
     
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    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    Oh we're having a blast, we laughed and made joke about every incident including the casual looks
     
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    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    I'm only upset because it was an employee, I do not expect my wife to get hit on by some working dude, that really pissed me off
     
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    You're a lucky man. Be satisfied with that bro!
     
  8. 97guns

    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    Well we're off to see the Grand Canyon, should be ok today unless some native Indian decides to make a move
     
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    Wear it... Live it... Love it...

    If you really are secure in your relationship then there is no reason to feel threatened.

    I see it too sometimes but feel only smug gratification. What would piss me off is if my wife looked like a cow.
     
  10. 97guns

    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    I don't think I feel threatened, I DO NOT like the idea of her being touched even in the hands, it's the first time seeing her touched and it was a different sensation for me than her just getting the looks and compliments
     
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    1. Don't go to places like that. The Vegas slogan "what happens here stays here" should have been taken as a warning.
    2. It probably works for them more often that not. People go there to let go.
    3. I'd walk up, kiss her neck, give the dude the hairy eyeball-o-death & walk hand in hand away with a nice smile.
     
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    If he's unskilled labor get a good laugh, he cant afford her & tell him so! Window shopping is acceptable, but trying to buy something that is totally out of his budget is not, not even for a demo ride. If he's not qualified to test drive a Ferrari or Lamborgini he's not qualified to talk or touch your "not for sale" merchandise! Again window shopping is acceptable, touchy, feelie test drives are not. She will love it & you when you tell a window shopper they cannot afford the payments!

    Thats how I've handled these confrontations in the past.
     
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    What was her reaction to said actions? Someone grabs my hand not wanting to let go, one thing I'm not doing is having a nice conversation that includes info about my personal details.

    What he should have found out is that she didn't like having her hand grabbed and hung onto while being pumped for personal info.
     
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    Someone hits on the missus ... I'm just standing back watching him trying to discover where his testicles went.
     
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    Reminds me of an incident many years ago in the West End District in Dallas when it was a gallery of bars, nightclubs and honky-tonks of every stripe.

    I'm not one to normally ogle women, rather make a concerted effort not to. And I didn't realize I was this time. But across this one crowded, smoky bar was a stunningly beautiful woman that demanded an occasional glance. Perfect in every way. Her SO had his arm around her, sporting her like the trophy she was. But he obviously noticed my interest. I glanced over there once again to see him staring directly at me. I'm thinking my gawd ... busted! But that quickly he yanked her top up to show me the most gorgeous set of tits I have ever seen. She playfully swatted him but she loved it too. We all did. Good times.
     
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    My wife is young and beautiful. I don't really worry about guys hitting on her because the places we go don't have those kind of people. Maybe the problem is that your lifestyle brings you in contact with scummy people.
     
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    I got 2 timed by a first rate lieing whore when I was younger. My first love, we had a 2 year old daughter together.

    Caught her with another man in her car at a gas station one afternoon. Her windows were tinted but I could see a dude slumped on the passenger side hiding under a ball cap as she pumped gas.

    She saw me pulling in and high tailed it inside.
    I walked up to the drivers window to confirm my suspicion and with a quick peek, indeed came a rush, and this would not stand.

    I opened the door and ask this stiff of a man who looked straight ahead and not my way, "What the fuck are you doing with my woman". As I waited for an answer I felt the violence pounding in my veins as I watched him swallow the hard lump of knowing it was on, regardless of the words he chose.

    " She's not your woman anymore" he says, To this day those words still ring in my ears... I jacked his jaw then punched my way through his seated Philly shell until I was on top of him in the passenger seat where I rained elbows to his neck and head until he napped but I wasn't satisfied...

    I was still boxing his ears when the now x reached in and yanked my ponytail saying "oh my gawd, your gonna kill him"!

    I said your goddamned right bitch and if you pull my hair again your next!... she ran back inside.

    At some point soon thereafter I realised he had enough this go round and I exited out the passenger door, jumped up on the hood and kicked her windshield out.

    Figure it served her right for breaking Stonedy's tender heart.
     
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    I'm single now, but how I see it is if someone can take my woman that easily then I have done something wrong and they are also doing me a favor because I don't need to be with that unloyal woman.

    Being with me is the shit. If you think the next guy is going to treat you better then go for it, I hope it works out too; she deserves to be happy. But this party doesn't stop, it goes on with or without her.

    If someone tries talking to her and her reaction isn't an immediate humble "sorry, I'm happily taken" she will be put on notice that I will be looking for a woman that does say that and the next guy who she doesn't say that to she might as well get with.
     
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    97guns Gold Member Gold Chaser

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    She is Thai and has been in the US for exactly 1 year, she is the submissive/shy type and her English is VERY limited. She didn't pull away from him and I wasn't in immediate vicinity, I was maybe 20 yards away and didn't see it from the start but I did see the hand holding, it wasn't until she met up with me again that I found out what the conversation was about.
     
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    ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    97G..s, She is not use to our customs you need to maintain a tighter rein until she is acclimated to American Ways.
    An American gal would have pulled away. And if "JODY" didn't get the hint then. That would be where I step in and JODY would be spitting teeth, as we walked away.
    4/5/6 years from now I believe you'll see a different version of your S.O.

    Otherwise son you may have been her meal ticket out of Thailand. - To Be Determined at a later date.

    Best Wish 97...
     
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    Your best explaination of the event. Yes she is probably new to this type of attention from the american egotists. It seems she handled it very well considering it was an overt act on his part. And I agree with notifying the hotel management, just understand that they probably get a hundred of these complaints daily, and it is hard to act on a he said she said complaint.

    Smile and enjoy the fact that she is still beside you, that is a complement to you, and how you treat her, short, she is happy with you, forget the incident and move on w/a smile sir, you are very fortunate to have the company of such a secure woman.
     
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    Well said GB. Yup, I would have not stepped in until she was uncomfortable.
     
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    Oh, could I tell some story's about being with 10's. But I won't bore you tonight.
     
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    I know I'm very lucky to have this woman in my life and yes it is a totally different lifestyle and life all together for her, it has been a life changing event for the both of us. I don't mind her getting the looks, in fact on our way back from the Grand Canyon we stopped in at McDonald's for a drink and bathroom break and I saw wandering eyes on her, probably doesn't help that she has that beautiful natural tan skin, everyone notices it and that's why I think there will be an escalated incident in the future where I will go full retard
     
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    When one of my "Babies Mamas" starts acting crazy I just leave and spend time with one of the other ones. Not saying it's healthy or right. Cause it has brought me a lot of pain dealing with my kids, both financially and emotionally.
     
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    Forget 10's, I prefer Elevens! LOL
     
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    Let me take a wild guess. The #2 worker was black?
     
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    Maybe you should try dating within your own race? Just a suggestion.
     
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    Yep and for some reason blacks really can't take their eyes off her, we were waiting at a traffic light on the strip and there was a solo black guy waiting to cross, I pulled up so he was right at her passenger side window, I jestured towards him and told the wife "look at me, look at me" and within 10 seconds his eyes gravitated to her and did deviate until the light turned green and we pulled away. Not only does she have that beige tan but I think her luscious full lips gets the looks
     
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    Maybe I am her race...., just a realization


    Never had this attention with other woman I've dated
     
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    I wonder how I got remarried in the first place....
     
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    Send her to self defence/assertiveness classes, she needs to have a bit of western attitude and a good put down. When in Rome kick the mofos in the nutz if you have to! Of course you might end up regretting that, not sure I'd teach my wife how to hurt me! :D
     
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    Ahhhhhh... the evils of alcohol! :D

    Do priests breath test? :p
     
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    Speaking from an American Female perspective, albeit an older one...

    She really does need to acclimate and assimilate to our culture. It is quite different. I learned this as a young army wife back in the 70's. The wives of guys from other cultures were always over at our apartment asking me how to be more "American". It was a real desire for them to understand why I did what I did and how to react to certain customs in our country.

    That said, keep the above in mind and please, do not go "full retard" on the offending male. I can't think of anything more embarrassing or horrifying than my SO going after someone exhibiting the behavior you described. Once (my abusive) first husband cold cocked a guy for making a raunchy suggestion to me within his earshot and it was all I could do to not run away. I had to diffuse the situation so as not to get the police involved for the sake of our family. Eventually, when my Ex started hitting me, that ship sailed.

    Being overly possessive to the point of violence is (for most women), not an attractive trait. It is not a flattering trait. It is a scary one. In a confident and committed relationship, you should know where you stand with your partner and feel content in the knowledge that you are the one they want to be with and the one they will go home with.

    Just my two cents.

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    I will not turn into Hulk for looks, remarks, compliments or whatnot but that green monster will definitely come out if she is touched inappropriately and I can see it happening with her getting so much attention.

    One of these attentive males will undoubtedly cross that line eventually.
     
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    Sorry, just had to ask. Where did you get such a submissive Female? All the ones around here are viscous...
     
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    I agree and the girl in question can do a lot to aid that. Some seem to play on the attention which is going nowhere good, others handle things in a way that gives you confidence in them.

    2c
     
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    I met her on a pen pal site 4 years ago and went to Thailand 2 times to visit her, she is a coin collector and that is how we connected

    I have dated American women and yes they were all viscous and cut your throat
     
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    Don't forget that constitutes assault in the modern world. Thump him and you are the guy getting locked up, notify the police of assault and he gets, at the very least, a hard time. Not very butch but effective...!
     

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